What is one of the reasons why an extramarital affair hurts so much? Because there is no on off switch for our feelings.
In his article, Annoying Behavioural Patterns, James Walsh gets to the crux of the marital relationship when he states, “It is only after marriage that one understands what real loving, caring and sharing is all about.”
When you’re going through a divorce, we frequently experience our ex being defensive about his/her role in the divorce, when he or she might well have been the one who cheated! Let’s be sure we don’t assume blame that isn’t ours to bear.
What was the reason for your divorce? Lies, abuse, not in love any more, or my personal favorite, adultery? I’ll bet a dollar to your dime, if you’re reading this article, it was because of my personal favorite. Am I right? Oh, adultery is a bugaboo; it leaves you with horrid feelings. But wait! There’s good news behind this horror. It wasn’t your fault they cheated. It was their fault. They really need to work on their life at lot more than you do.
